Quote of the day ... Oct. 23, 2012

"I was proud of the waves I had made, but wondered 

how many boats I was supposed to rock."

~Phil Donahue

Perhaps we don't realize the affect we have on others, on people we don't even intend to be a part of the waves we are stirring up.  When you are causing a disturbance with an intended party, others, almost always, are also affected.  Sometimes this can be a good thing, sometimes, not so much.  We must always think before we act so that we can understand the full outcome of our intentions.

Several years ago, I was, dare I say "victim", of a group of people making waves for someone I was close to at the time.  This caused such drama in my life and I wasn't even the target.  It has taken me many years to overcome this with much understanding and mental strength that I was not the intended target.  It caused me to feel as though I couldn't go certain places, always worried I would run into these people.  Once I released that fear I no longer was under their control.  My point here is, if you haven't gotten it by now, that you need to evaluate your intentions and keep them on the positive side.  Whether you believe in karma or not, you certainly have seen reaping what is sowed in action.

Before acting, think about the waves you will create, the boats you will rock and what your intended outcome is. If you cannot find a way to get your point across without hurting others, perhaps you need to re-think your intentions and make sure they are true and real. 

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Quote of the day ... Oct. 9, 2012

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

~Albert Einstein

Does your life sometimes seem insane? Do you find yourself looking for a different answer in the same spot?  

Sometimes we are too involved in a certain situation that we can't see the reality of the situation and we find ourselves going round and round in circles.  When this occurs, it is helpful to just step back from the insanity and look at it from a different perspective.  It is also good to accept when a situation has gotten so out of control that you cannot possibly get through it on your own.  When you have a situation in your life that has taken complete control and caused your life to be unmanageable, it is necessary to accept this fact, first and foremost, otherwise, you will never be able to get through it.  Acceptance is the first step to your path of sanity.  Most people who have something that is so controlling cannot just walk away without the support of others.

I have been in a situation where things were so out of control they seemed normal. I had people surrounding me telling me that I wasn't being reasonable, that I was only setting myself up for further pain, but yet, they stuck by me.  They didn't judge me, they didn't tell me that I needed to do anything. They were only telling me what they were seeing from their perspective. I thought they didn't understand, when in all reality, it was ME  that didn't understand.  I sought out the services of a support group, people who were also in the same situation would surely understand why I stayed in this situation.  As it turned out, I was both right and wrong. Thankfully, I gained enough strength to walk away from the situation and have found a much happier place in my life, but I never would have or could have done it on my own.  I have found strength by living one day at a time and by accepting that I am not in control by way of  the serenity prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Turn your life upside down, completely change your course of action, take that sharp right when you should have turned left, but most important, seek the help of others when you need it. 

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Quote of the day ... Oct 3, 2012

"May you live to be a hundred years

With one extra year to repent."

~Author Unknown

A life of regret is something I refuse to ever have.  I love taking chances, risks and have faith that I will always end up on the right path.  I have recently been forced into change that I was not fully prepared for, although, I am probably more ready that I think I am, because I am here, doing this and loving it all. 

How do you react when change is forced upon you?  Do you take in stride or immediately panic? Do you turn inward and see how only the here and now is affected or do you force yourself to see the situation for what it is and what opportunities are there for you?  Your life is dependent on no one but YOU! Make it great!  

Go fishing where you are prohibited.