~Iris Murdoch
Love is my favorite thing. The feeling it sends through every inch of your being is simply amazing. Love is not enough though. It may be patient, it may be kind, but it's not enough.
Love needs to be embraced with understanding, communication, willingness to do whatever it takes to get through. Love requires patience and kindness. Love knows no wrong. Love can see how a past can make a person who they are today, and does not judge based on a place where one no longer lives. Love can help you hold onto a future.
In my mind there is a clear difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone. I have heard many people say that the part of being IN love fades to simply loving someone. I do not believe this to be true. I believe that in real love, it is imperative to find a way to fall IN love constantly. Take Lucy and Ricky, no matter how crazy Lucy made him, you could always tell that Ricky was IN love with her. It's all in the eyes and the body language.
Finding someone to spend a lifetime of falling IN love with may not seem realistic to many, but you know when you see those really cute old couples walking down the street or in the mall or at Target still holding hands and gazing at each other ... they have it. They are the ones that have held onto the fact that true love exists and gives the rest of us hope that we will find that same thing. I believe that anyone can find this, it's all in how you grow together. More times then not, people get comfortable and without even realizing it, start to take their true love for granted, this is when I believe falling IN love fades into simply loving someone.
Wouldn't it be wonderful to have that feeling you had back in the beginning when everything felt good, there was nothing to fight over, nothing to complain about, and you missed the person the minute you were no longer with them? You can have it again, and you don't even need to find someone new. You just need to do something different. You need to vocalize your thankfulness for that person being in your life. Remember all the things that made you fall IN love in the first place, and find those things again.
Sometimes we have to stomp on the grapes to make the wine, but the end result is always worth it. Go for it! I encourage you to find yourself being IN love again!
